Tell me dear director, as if
disability and sexuality was not complex and sensitive enough subject, y did u
have to pull one feet and put in the other boat of another complex and sensitive area of
homosexuality? Bahut confuje hue ho aur hamka bhi confuje kiye ho..
Hua yun ki
Banne chale kheer
Beech me laga –lets make it spicy
Dal diya namak mirch dalchini
Khilaike hamko bole kheer-like never
before
Khake ke ho gai ulti
Of the many discussions I had with
friends, some questions I grossly failed to respond to are as follows:
Do persons with disability become
homosexual or bisexual because they cannot easily find a sexual partner?!
Do persons with disability think of
sex more than a ‘normal’ person?!
Can bixexual people not maintain
loyalty to one partner or must maintain multiple loyalties?!
A blind friend of mine often touches
my face and hair. Does she have a sexual intent?
Is there a medical connection between
disability and sexual orientation?
Are cats carnivores? Do frogs have a
nose? Are penguins mammals?- Sounding similar?? For God’s sake we are not different
species persons with impairments, persons wit various sexual orientations we are
all people from the human species..of course all of us have similar body
drives..u just had to establish their humanness needn’t have ripped their biologies
as if u were to look at another species!
We
have a long culture of institunalizing persons having impairments and rendering
them invisible of daily domains and made them ‘others’ in society. And so have
we stigmatized non heterosexual orientatins and rendered them as ‘others’ from
humanity. Now with both the ‘others’ coming together in the film its as if the ‘normals’
do the ‘normal’ things and the ‘OTHERS’ DO THE ‘OTHER’ THINGS. Promoted from
pit to well.
Oh thank God Laila was bisexual or
evolved as bisexual as her friend says in the movie. What if Laila was
heterosexual and her girl friend kisser her lips in the pretence of a head
massage? Whop! Slap! A close case of molestation for my knowledge of a heterosexual.
But is that all right with a homosexual relation?? Quip quip..unlikely but I
don’t know!! The film sez that’s how it is..its gyan for me..but id prefer to
hold that I still don’t know..quip quip
If a film is titled sholay it cant
get away with a love story with some lit coal in one scene..the aggression flows
through the storyline. This movie nevertheless shows it twice- Laila is drinking
margarita with a straw therefore the title. -really?? I mean really is that all
u cud do to live up the title?? Wherez that creative living promise the title
makes?? where is the witty busting of
invisible barriers that the title promises?? (Taste kaha hai?? ;) ) Cerebral
palsy is not disability; its a physiological condition. Disability is a social
construction. We have built our societies socially and physically inaccessible
for many forms of human body physiology. Our systems are unfairly structured suffocating
the vulnerable to even survival, leaving often little room to even reach that
point of self and sexual exploration. .yes of course if this is not making
sense its coz uv never seen it, nor the movie has shown it.. horseblinds out
here! Convinence over reality?
What the film cannot gather is
criticism, for its an unknown subject and whatever it offers is not a subject
of critique but ‘gyan’. Now who wants to hold a critical lens and look like
some ancient religious chauvinist. Yo man we are from the modern age whatever
des guys do ..its all cool hw does dat matter wat dey do with themselves.
But for me as a disability social
worker and a person with disability it matters. It does not represent me..it
does not tell the world what I had been longing to tell through this film.. it
leaves me confused..
Well..whatever..I cant hold myself
from saying Kalki- hatsoff to ur brilliant acting..girl u couldn’t be more
real! Revatiji thank u fo being the mother u r..how sensitive and sensible..
hats off..
Ps: Taking some antidotes: The theory
of everything: A film based on the greatest scientist of the century Stephen
Hawkings; Barfi; My left foot; A beautiful mind; Sirivennela
