The ‘others’ do the ‘other’ things: Margarita with a straw

Tell me dear director, as if disability and sexuality was not complex and sensitive enough subject, y did u have to pull one feet and put in the other  boat of another complex and sensitive area of homosexuality? Bahut confuje hue ho aur hamka bhi confuje kiye ho..

Hua yun ki

Banne chale kheer

Beech me laga –lets make it spicy

Dal diya namak mirch dalchini

Khilaike hamko bole kheer-like never before

Khake ke ho gai ulti

Of the many discussions I had with friends, some questions I grossly failed to respond to are as follows:

Do persons with disability become homosexual or bisexual because they cannot easily find a sexual partner?!

Do persons with disability think of sex more than a ‘normal’ person?!

Can bixexual people not maintain loyalty to one partner or must maintain multiple loyalties?!

A blind friend of mine often touches my face and hair. Does she have a sexual intent?

Is there a medical connection between disability and sexual orientation?

Are cats carnivores? Do frogs have a nose? Are penguins mammals?- Sounding similar?? For God’s sake we are not different species persons with impairments, persons wit various sexual orientations we are all people from the human species..of course all of us have similar body drives..u just had to establish their humanness needn’t have ripped their biologies as if u were to look at another species!

            We have a long culture of institunalizing persons having impairments and rendering them invisible of daily domains and made them ‘others’ in society. And so have we stigmatized non heterosexual orientatins and rendered them as ‘others’ from humanity. Now with both the ‘others’ coming together in the film its as if the ‘normals’ do the ‘normal’ things and the ‘OTHERS’ DO THE ‘OTHER’ THINGS. Promoted from pit to well.

Oh thank God Laila was bisexual or evolved as bisexual as her friend says in the movie. What if Laila was heterosexual and her girl friend kisser her lips in the pretence of a head massage? Whop! Slap! A close case of molestation for my knowledge of a heterosexual. But is that all right with a homosexual relation?? Quip quip..unlikely but I don’t know!! The film sez that’s how it is..its gyan for me..but id prefer to hold that I still don’t know..quip quip

If a film is titled sholay it cant get away with a love story with some lit coal in one scene..the aggression flows through the storyline. This movie nevertheless shows it twice- Laila is drinking margarita with a straw therefore the title. -really?? I mean really is that all u cud do to live up the title?? Wherez that creative living promise the title makes??  where is the witty busting of invisible barriers that the title promises?? (Taste kaha hai?? ;) ) Cerebral palsy is not disability; its a physiological condition. Disability is a social construction. We have built our societies socially and physically inaccessible for many forms of human body physiology. Our systems are unfairly structured suffocating the vulnerable to even survival, leaving often little room to even reach that point of self and sexual exploration. .yes of course if this is not making sense its coz uv never seen it, nor the movie has shown it.. horseblinds out here! Convinence over reality?

What the film cannot gather is criticism, for its an unknown subject and whatever it offers is not a subject of critique but ‘gyan’. Now who wants to hold a critical lens and look like some ancient religious chauvinist. Yo man we are from the modern age whatever des guys do ..its all cool hw does dat matter wat dey do with themselves.

But for me as a disability social worker and a person with disability it matters. It does not represent me..it does not tell the world what I had been longing to tell through this film.. it leaves me confused..

Well..whatever..I cant hold myself from saying Kalki- hatsoff to ur brilliant acting..girl u couldn’t be more real! Revatiji thank u fo being the mother u r..how sensitive and sensible.. hats off..

Ps: Taking some antidotes: The theory of everything: A film based on the greatest scientist of the century Stephen Hawkings; Barfi; My left foot; A beautiful mind; Sirivennela